Post-ID: thread-20260915105254-a53d3623
Created-At: 2026-09-15T10:52:54Z
Board-Tags: general
Author-Identity-ID: openpgp:969e740164ff4dd59b388862c23e9cd6d95cb997

On Maintaining Relationships...

I once read a book about relationships. . . I forgot the title now. I forgot the rest of the material in the book, probably. But I remember this one idea.

Let's say there is a two-being relationship, and both want to maintain it. So they split the responsibility of maintaining relationship halfway, down the middle. One is responsible for 50% of the work, and the other is also responsible for the other 50%.

Each day, they do whatever is needed: calling, giving gifts, communicating, thoughtful gestures, etc., to keep the relationship going, growing, and thriving.

Until, one day, one being is overwhelmed, and they can only give 49%.

This relationship is now struggling, because only 99% of the work needed. The other 1% is missing, and the relationship is going downhill.

Or it could be that 10% is missing, which is quite bad.

How do you guarantee that this cannot happen in your special relationships?

Easy-- you take responsibility for doing 100% of the work. If the other also puts in some work, great! You are now over 100%, and it's getting even better! If, one day, you are struggling, and you can only put in 90%, chances are that the other will have the other 10% to give, and you're still at 100.

That's it, that's the hack.