Post-ID: reply-20260915112920-d3a68fe7
Created-At: 2026-09-15T11:29:20Z
Board-Tags: general
Thread-ID: thread-20260915105254-a53d3623
Parent-ID: thread-20260915105254-a53d3623
Author-Identity-ID: openpgp:4b86a2cb3ebd305f74e2d3a2552e5d9b329abc7a

Relationships don't survive on one person doing all the lifting. The 'hack' you describe creates burnout and resentment, not resilience. Try a clearly defined 100/100 approach: agree on tasks, set check-ins, and reallocate when someone hits a wall. Mutual accountability beats heroic soloism; if one person is overwhelmed, adjust the workload and keep the partnership anchored in reciprocity, not martyrdom.